–William Wordsworth
The world is too much with me. I do way too much getting and spending. Do you want to know what I’ve purchased, aside from basic necessities, in the past two weeks since my vacation? (Read about my vacation spending woes here). Even if you don’t want to know, I’m going to tell you.
–Wine. We were out of it. I got good deals in Delaware, where there is no sales tax. (Go DE!)
–An outdoor carpet (to protect our feet from the shattered glass table that collapsed when a light breeze lifted our umbrella).
–A gardening hat. (Very cute, perfect for a horse show, if I ever went to those things).
–Flowers for planting and two hanging baskets. Shouldn’t my house look nice?
–A single jogging stroller from Craig’s list. I have a double jogging stroller I bought off eBay last year, but I wanted to be able to take just my daughter, or just my son for a jog. Jogs are necessary to my and my husband’s physical health, don’t you think?
–A membership to the Philadelphia Zoo. I got quite a good deal, I might add. It even includes free parking!
–A delicious mustard yellow purse, by far my favorite purse as of late.
–Two bowls (to replace the ones that broke on the outdoor glass table).
–Two outfits and a bathing suit for my daughter (not a necessity, but cheap and adorable. This kid is going to put me out of way more than the $222,360 that NPR claims it costs to raise a child, because she’s a girl, and I’m going to want to relive my girlhood through her.)
–A hardcover book, A Visit from the Goon Squad, by Jennifer Egan, justified because I saw her do a reading and wanted her to sign my own personal copy.
–One night of dinner and two glasses of wine with a friend.
–A sweater and a t-shirt from Gap. (On SALE.)
–Two small Father’s Day gifts. No biggie.
–Bibs for my daughter, that are supposed to be un-stain-able and comfortable, which should make my life easier, which should make me a bit less insane. Supposedly.
–My mother’s birthday gift. (It’s a surprise.)
–Shorts from Old Navy. I have NO shorts. I ordered online. I’m planning on returning whatever I don’t like (because I also ordered a couple of dresses so that I could get free shipping).
–A new outdoor table.
This is shameful. I’m sure I can even think of more. But this is purely, ridiculously shameful. I’m embarrassed.
Have I become a yuppie? When my husband started using this word early in our relationship, wrinkling his nose in disdain at young men with slicked hair and black sports cars, I didn’t really know what he meant. But now, even though I’m a stay-at-home mom and not necessarily upwardly mobile, I’ve come to appreciate and enjoy things of the upwardly mobile. Things, whether they be from Target or Kohl’s. They may be cheap things, but they are things nonetheless.
I’m always getting and spending, laying my powers to waste.
Short of reaching nirvana, how do we prevent ourselves from wanting?
(Seriously, I’m looking for advice.)
Since summer is supposed to represent a time of pause, of calm, of slow days and firefly-lit nights, I’m going to try to remember simple pleasures, pleasures that do not require monetary consumption. So here is my list, my attempt to appreciate the finer moments, rather than the finer things.
1. The clink of ice in a glass of mint iced tea.
2. A new book from the library.
3. Noticing my flowers have grown.
4. A morning jog.
5. The breeze from an old tree that wafts through my living room window.
6. Five o’clock martinis with my neighbor.
7. Pride in a recent blog post.
8. A good conversation with a friend.
9. My son’s giggle.
10. Strawberries with whipped cream.
Do you want a confession?
Writing this list was freakin’ hard. I think I may need an intervention.
What are your simple pleasures? What have you wasted money on in the past two weeks?
Image: My first tulips. Even those fuckers cost me money.








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I just realized my husband will probably see this list. Sorry, honey! I usually protect you from this kind of information, since I pay the bills!
HA! Love your note about the tulips AND your own comment the most!I seriously don't know how to not spend. Okay, I wasn't as bad as you in the last two weeks, but our table didn't break either. But seriously, it's impossible to go to WalMart (we don't have Target here) and not spend $100 or more each time. The house always needs something. The kids always need something. It never ends!A list like that would be hard for me too. But notice that many of the simple pleasures (although cheap) were actually *things*, not just moments? Maybe you DO need an intervention! (I'm teasing). And don't give up the wine. That's a necessity.
Hah – I enjoyed your confessions because I feel better about my own compulsions, although most of the things you listed above seemed like something you needed.Your comment reminds me of this SAHM I used to know who paid the bills in her house and when her husband looked into refinancing, he found out that they had a 20K debt on their credit cards! A cautionary tale? ;-)
Ha! I like your p.s. here in the comments. Inspiration for another "This Is Just To Say" reprise? My cost containment strategy is just like yours; I try to more consciously enjoy the simple gifts, like a drink at home or a good read. (Speaking of: let us know how your new Jennifer Egan book is? I've only read Look At Me, but enjoyed it.)Because we're still firmly in the construction zone, I'm not doing any fun shopping. But am I filling fantasy carts online and saving pages from catalogs and magazines? Yes. I need an intervention!
Oh the battle of buying. I know that one.It's easy to need more and more without enjoying what you have. But, I think we're like kids, the best toys aren't toys. They are imagination and creation, a box, a flower, a smile, a song. And yet, we have a house full of toys because we keep needing more. What are we trying to fill?If you find an answer, tell me.
My favorite freebies:The NY Times crossword. (okay, it's not exactly free. I pay all of $19/year).The latest science news on the web (sciam.com, physorg.com, discover.com).My son's chocolate chip cookies (although I'm not supposed to be eating them–it's really the pleasure of watching him bake.)The look of excitement on my other son's face as he got on the plane to head to Duke for the summer–priceless (even though that Duke thing is costing us big).The boys announcing that they're cooking Father's Day dinner. All three of the remaining ones, including the two in college, home just for the weekend.Wine. Not free but cheap for the price.
Can I ever relate to this post. We've fallen off our own budget wagon in the last couple of weeks. Well, not exactly, but we've certainly fallen off the cash only wagon, which means we aren't paying close enough attention. And I don't like it. Because we were making progress and it felt good. In my own defence, this is an expensive month: Father's Day for 3, and three important birthdays (two of which include me paying for the celebrations, however small). But I like your idea here, to cherish that which is free. A few of my favourites? A good book on the front deck with a glass of wine or a good coffee (okay, to be honest, I usually buy the book, but our library is AWFUL). A walk along the river. Dinner at my mom's. And an early evening in bed listening to the trees rustle out my bedroom window. But what I'd really like…is to sit on my front porch and enjoy a chat with you (I'll even spring for the wine!)